Sunday, June 22, 2014

Loss of an old friend...

Last night, as I was perusing FB, I saw some condolence messages about an old colleague and a friend of mine. At that late hour I did not know what to do and could not turn to another mutual friend as to how, when, why, how about his wife, son, etc... I was shocked too. As far as I knew he did not have health problems and he was only 59.

I spoke to him about a month ago. He sounded happy and we talked about meeting sometime in the summer where he lived with his wife.

This morning, a mutual friend called to confirm the news. I am so sad... He was a good person, a good father, a loving husband, nice colleague and a good friend.

It struck me that my only tie with my friends are mostly themselves. I do not know how to reach their spouses or kids. I am single and my friends would not know how to reach my family if something happened to me. Nobody knows my password for my FB account or mobile phone. What happens after we go?

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  1. Sorry to hear of your loss, T'Pol. What sad news, and so young! I think about this sort of thing as well, and found a great idea here: http://workingforagoal.com/: A Life Binder, giving all the details of your life and what it includes, in case of illness or death (scroll down about three or four postings to find it). Not something we like to think of, but a definite must. Take care of yourself xx

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    1. It is so nice to hear from you. Thank you for your kind words. I have read Tania's post about the Life Binder. I will absolutely pull together my info and make a binder. I had done a similar thing though much primitive in the past. However, it has been more than 3 years I guess.

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  2. It may sound silly, but I crafted a way for that while I was an online gamer. True, you are meeting with people online pretty much on a daily basis, and sometimes miss out due to technical problems, but I always told my online friends that if I were to go missing for a full week with no communication (email, post, text), then they can consider something bad has happened to me. I'm not so much worried about my social media, but I guess that you could always pass that along to a best friend or sibling. That way they could deactivate your account, or at least alert those you are connected to that something has happened...I posted last week about a "life binder". I suppose your passwords would go in there, with instructions of who/how to notify those people.

    Sorry about your loss. I am sure it is a very tough time with lots of questions, but little answers.

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    1. Thanks Tania. I have read your post about the Life Binder. It is time I do that. I had done a simpler thing before and handed it to my sister a few years ago.

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  3. I spoke to my friend's wife and it turned out that he had a liver problem for about a year and he forbade her to tell anyone. He was a private person and I understand that. I am glad he did not suffer much. He went into a coma on Friday and passed away in 24 hours. May him rest in peace...

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